Long time no talk to! I have finished my across country trek and landed in the beautiful city of Houston, Texas where EVERYTHING is big! Apartments [I have a 1 bdrm that is 934 sq. ft with major amenities], the streets [6 lane major streets], and men [so far the average I’ve seen is 6’5″..yaaaahoo!] Big transition right after the Jazzfest, so for a few days I have been a sluck [definition – blanket, recliner, remote].
Tonight, I listened to Reginald Teddybear Ford, the C.E.O. of our magazine Purifying The Mic on his radio show, LOTL Radio [see link below]. The person of interest: Maxi “B” Bond from Rick James’ infamous super group, The Mary Jane Girls. Now if you don’t know which one she was, she was the “vanilla” sister in leather. In the magazine, I interviewed JoJo McDuffie who shared her story about her experiences in the MJG and with Rick. He was a tyrant; cruel, stingy and selfish. On that point, they both agree.
But the reason I am blogging about this, is because I have NEVER to date heard anyone speak of their issues in the industry – having gone thru so much – with as much grace, and kindness, and realness, and forgiveness in their delivery as Maxi Bond did tonight.
In her interview she was direct, and brutally honest about everything they went thru. Their struggles, pains, everything. To date, she has yet to see a royalty payment from all of her years on that stage with the ladies and in his camp. She spoke of these injustices, and the issues with the ladies coming back together. And she was exact in her speaking [“I will not allow all of our hard work to go down to the basement like that (other MJG groups). I am going to work and bring us back up to the Penthouse!”]. But even in that, she was loving, and caring, and expressed her determination to walk in Forgiveness, having called each member and left an apology as well as forgave and released them.
Because of this, Maxi is a totally healed woman. You can hear it in her voice, and you can see it in her life. Maxi is one of the Premier Caterers to the stars, and has also self-published a cookbook entitled “Champagne and Collard Greens”. She is a representative for a Cosmetic line [well.. LOOK at her.. That is what 53 looks like!], and is working on another book for healthy living via Super Foods. AND she has new Music! And it’s GOOD! In her interview, there is no hatred. No malice. No “look at me now!” mentality. She is just down to earth, and matter of fact in her approach.
“Ok, so Rick did you bad (speaking of the other MJG members who refuse to come back). But hey, he did us all bad. But that does not have to be the end of our story! Take that lemon, make some lemonade, and keep it moving. Forgive, and keep going!”
I shared this, not to plug the show or her product, but her heart and attitude. In this industry we will always have cause for offense: a bad deal, a show you have not been paid for.. so many things. But with all of her issues and struggles in that arena she has come out stronger, wiser. The beauty and power of her decision to walk in Forgiveness shines thru every note and timbre of her conversation, and thru every fiber of her being. I encourage you to listen to her testimony, because even though I do forgive, I learned a whole other level of the power of it from hearing her share.
In Rhythm and Blue
(link to the show)